Her Muse journal

Inferiority complex is the hindrance to your Spring!!.    The feeling of being not good enough, is all in your head and mind! Its not about your environment, your physique or appearance, its all about "what your head feeds your mind". Your head says "am not good enough" am not beautiful " am from a poor background " oh no! I am too fat or slim! God! I look so ugly ", am not even tall, no man or woman would want to marry me! and your mind accolades with whatever trash your head feed it with!. Its time to clean out the " drainage system of inferiority complex and understand that " the only person to be held responsible For how you feel/see yourself is "you " not me, not your friends, not the idea of "its in my destiny"'or how God wants it to be" there's no way God would want you to be ungrateful for how he created you, turn back and blame it on him,  it's just the silly pathetic things you feed your mind wi...

Dedicated to my beautiful African woman, going through difficult  phases that nobody could see but her heart carries the weight of the pain that only she can feel... Stay strong, I see a glimmer of light at the end of the tunnel.      I am that African child, With aspirations of that African dream, I grew up to be a strong African woman, My parents raised me, The streets made me, Circumstances moulded me, And I found me.         I have been in love,  I have been heartbroken,  I have felt amazingly happy,  I felt like dancing,  there were times I felt extremely sad,  I felt as if I couldn't live another day,  I have been stressed,  I have been depressed, I have been lonely,  I have been joyful,  I have been blessed,   I have been grateful,  I have  faced the trials, I was hurt by the denials, I bravely faced the pain, I accepted the betrayals, I smiled at the failed promises, I  ...

Mark Manson's Disappointment Panda would say "Don’t hope for a life without problems “There’s no such thing. Instead, hope for a life full of good problems.”        Being depressed and hunting yourself over things you, don't have any control over, is like depriving yourself off a life itself even while you are still alive,there's no easy way to success or achieving what we want,all we need to do is to be capable enough to deal with life's tantrums when we are faced with it, don't think for a moment because a certain man is rich they dont have problems, that's certainly being delusional and shutting ourselves out from what the truth is, if human beings have no existing problems, we won't see a rich man still investing to make more money, life would have been perfect and we would have had billions of people with annoying personality gaits!       Before you feel depressed, do a self evaluation,you have a job that earns you a salary monthly, yet you w...

Life is like a reality show; and we are the casts in it, faced with the mundane task of literary techniques  of  suspense, Tragicomedy, Comedy, Tragedy, heroes, heroines, villains, Sarcastic situations, ironic experiences.. Life is Literature happening in the form of "Dreams and Reality"          Understanding  human nature is Paramount, but get acquainted with  the truth about life to avoid being surprised at the upturn of events happening in it and causing yourself much pain than you deserve..                        'HerMixedMuse' ZERO EXPECTATIONS       Expect zero nothing from nobody! ever heard that much expectations hurts? It really does, when I was in my final year in school, I had much assurance from people around me promising to accomodate and give me the connection to a job after school, I had so many expectations!! but when I graduated from school, went for ...

"A subtle reminder on how much you should value yourself"        I  was once depressed about not being married! Hell yeah, I was, But it gave me the chance to sink down to my darkest emotions and see the light from the bottom.. I grew out of it!! And that was when I saw things clearer, (this is deeply not all there is to my life!!)   Don't wallow   in "Self pity" and "self condemnation" No no!! I can't say your feelings are not real, am saying don't condemn yourself because of how unworthy you feel! Why do you feel that way? Is this all there is to life?,  I can't stop you from the "odd feelings" you might have about  not being married,but heres a therapeautic idea on how to wait beautifully without an atom of depresssion.  Be patient:  Its not just your time yet, but that doesn't mean you deserve less, be cheery,stay smart and charming. Exhume Confidence: : Appear smart and elegant not ugly and messy! Be wise, don't spoi...