"How Inferiority Stunts Your Becoming"

Inferiority complex is the hindrance to your Spring!!.

   The feeling of being not good enough, is all in your head and mind! Its not about your environment, your physique or appearance, its all about "what your head feeds your mind". Your head says "am not good enough" am not beautiful " am from a poor background " oh no! I am too fat or slim! God! I look so ugly ", am not even tall, no man or woman would want to marry me! and your mind accolades with whatever trash your head feed it with!. Its time to clean out the " drainage system of inferiority complex and understand that " the only person to be held responsible For how you feel/see yourself is "you " not me, not your friends, not the idea of "its in my destiny"'or how God wants it to be" there's no way God would want you to be ungrateful for how he created you, turn back and blame it on him,  it's just the silly pathetic things you feed your mind with, to avoid the Truth that is staring right at you. Because you are scared of making mistakes and learning from them, you want things to be perfect, and when it turns out the other way, you beat yourself up and reminisce on the "odds" in your nature, I mean the "odds" you feel is where your problems springs forth from.

I had my full and extra share of inferiority complex, having grown up in a rural setting, heard that ? "Having grown up in a rural vicinity", that was my first mistake," letting my environment define me", then I had my family's financial status, I always felt my parents were not rich, so, my joy was limited because i felt its only the rich that has the unlimited joy, that was my second mistake, with this mindsets, I found it hard to communicate effectively in English with any of the kids that came back from the city or with any of my cousins because they constantly conversed in English, I would rather keep quiet and watch than to utter any word, I felt they would laugh at my mistakes, because "I was a village girl", yeah, I used " was" because am over that pathetic mentality. But back then I felt super inferior nevertheless! I was losing out on cool discussions I knew I could say a whole lot in, I was losing out in cases where I knew I could defend myself, losing out where I ought to prove myself,  so, I changed my perception about "myself" I stopped blaming destiny for things that it's not responsible for, I started engaging myself in discussions, I made friends, would speak at great length and correct myself when I make mistakes, I walked around proudly like the sweet lady I am.

 I started caring less about people's perception, but more on "my own view about myself". That was a huge step into "self esteem upgrade"

As Dolly Parton would say "One is only poor , only if they choose to be" "Coat of many colours" was the vibe that I always had when I discovered myself, I realised its not the financial status, its me, its not the pimpled face, it's not the oily face, its not the makeover, it's me, its not the mirror that is lying to me, it is me!! It's not the world, it's me!! I am my problem, because I accorded myself less than I should have, shying away from people, connections and lucks, because I felt, the things that I was raised in and the circumstances, had the right to define me.

 

   When will you stop feeling inferior? When will you start  looking in the mirror to admire yourself, rather than trying to find out the flops? Do you know how special, handsome or beautiful you are? Do you realise that you are someone's "Amen"? And wish? Don't let your physique define you, don't let your background define you,mingle with everyone, exude much pride when you walk into a room filled with people, let your "charisma" carry the wave. The greatest mistake I made was letting my environment define me, when I realised it, I already lost out on many opportunities and trust me, I am currently repenting for not seeing myself as a princess that I am, but I am fixing all my mistakes.

Don't let inferiority drown  your voice in the presence of your married friends, if their conversation is interesting, chip in!! Who cares? Let them deal with it!! 

    You are all sweet and filled with greatness, you are extraordinary!! So, be extraordinary in all you do! 

The world can only define you situated on how you define yourself, if you define yourself as a poor girl or guy, that's how the world will see you and it will limit your achievements!! Give yourself the credit that you deserve, maybe things will work out positively and better once you device a whole proud, fulfilled, beautiful approach towards life and not the pathetic, self isolated image of yourself that you have portrayed all this while.

   Joe said "I am good for nothing" Jane said I am poor " Amaka said I should be ashamed of being a divorcee" Lisa said "I wear outdated accessories" Mary said my hair is synthetic " its a pathetic wire of who said and whose opinion and all those shenanigans!! 

      Hey, you, what has been your reply to what they said? Did you accept their lousy opinion?

What are you currently saying about yourself?  Its not even your friend's fault, its not even your parent's fault!! They offered you what they had already, you not expecting them to give up their organs to make you feel wanted, a book I read  "How to get what you want" the author said : "being born poor is not your fault, but choosing to stay in it is entirely your fault ". So, being raised in a certain limited environment is not your fault, but choosing to let it affect your approach towards life is entirely your fault and only yours.

You are Unique, special,courageous, awesome,sweet, imperfectly perfect,amazing, a queen,a king,kind,humble and you are so " fly " but all these accolades won't mean a thing, if you don't start seeing yourself the way you are really molded to be.. Flush out the "the stacked up drainage system of inferiority complex and embrace your " "sweet self Esteem" and Uniqueness. I believe you can, start now and see yourself adapt to a whole new happy world!

©HerMixedMuse