When the Apology Never Comes: How to Forgive, Let Go, and Heal Your Heart
Someone rightly said… “I never knew how strong I was until I forgave a person who was never sorry and accepted the apology I never received.”
So, what if you didn’t get an apology?
What if I didn’t receive one, not for the lies, the betrayals, or the time wasted?
Life happened. And we both learned the hard way that holding on to pain doesn’t make the wound heal faster, it only makes it linger longer. The truth is, the person who hurt you may never feel an ounce of remorse. They may never see the pieces they broke, or even the quiet nights you spent trying to understand why.
But here’s the thing: healing isn’t about them. It’s about you.
It’s about reclaiming your peace from the grip of someone who doesn’t even realize they’re holding it. It’s learning to forgive not because they deserve it, but because you deserve freedom. Freedom from every burden it layed on your beautiful heart.
When we stop waiting for closure from others, we create it for ourselves. Because we deeply need it.
When we stop expecting an apology, we open space for acceptance and when we choose to forgive, we don’t erase what happened, we simply refuse to be defined by it.
So, you see? Forgiveness doesn’t mean forgetting. It means remembering without resentment. It’s waking up one day and realizing the memories no longer hurts, they just exist, like old chapters that shaped who you’ve become.
You’ll know you’ve healed when you no longer need them to admit what they did. Why do you need to anyway?
When peace stops depending on their remorse.
When you smile again, not because the pain never happened, but because it no longer controls you.
So, what if you didn’t get an apology?
Give yourself one. For your peace of mind, apologize to your own heart for carrying the burden for too long, for dimming your light to make others comfortable, for waiting for someone else to give you peace when you could’ve given it back into your own soul on a platter of love and light.
Let this be your healing, a quiet, unseen, and deeply personal kind of healing, because peace doesn’t come from being understood.
It comes from understanding yourself.
How to Heal
1. Forgive yourself first.
For believing you were the reason things fell apart. For thinking you could have done more. Healing begins when you release yourself from guilt.
2. Assume they are sorry, even if you feel they aren’t.
For your own peace, tell yourself you’ve forgiven them. You may never hear the words you deserve, but your heart can still choose calm over chaos.
3. Accept the pain and own it.
Don’t deny what you feel. Sit with your emotions, cry if you must, breathe through it, because pretending you’re fine only delays true healing.
4. Write it down, release it.
Pour out every emotion on paper. Then, burn the pages and whisper:
“I am letting go of every hurt I ever felt. I am accepting healing for my own peace, because I deserve it.”
5. Rebuild your worth.
Write down your strengths, your good qualities, your worth and affirm them every day. Let those words be your reminder never to let anyone break you again.
Healing isn’t about pretending nothing happened, it’s about learning to live fully, even with the scars.
Because sometimes, peace is the apology you give yourself. ❤️
©️ HerMixedMuse
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