Your Peace Of Mind , Should Be Your first Priority.

"The key to finding true contentment, said Ferraiolo, is to “recognize the sorts of external events that tend to cause unpleasant psychological and emotional states."

I have come to realize in my recent years, that the greatest mistakes we ever made and still makes as human beings, is being reluctant to walk away from things and situations that affects us negatively, or better still, pay less attention to them, the constant act of compromising our happiness for deep sorrows and regrets.

I could recall my aunt's words, when she called me up some months ago; I was emotionally depressed, told her about the issues I was going through at that time,on the verge of narrating my ordeal, I broke down in tears, she said; "Chitoom , anything that robs you off your piece of mind , should be permanently deleted and trashed out, if it is not giving you money, happiness and peace of mind, it is definitely not worth your tears". Her words got to me and it acted as a "Self guide" for me, into irrelevant situations that I allowed to rob me off my "Peace of mind".

A Self Guide To Your Peace of Mind:

When you notice you have exhausted your importance in people's lives,just shut them out.

Don't be caught up fighting for closures.
Don't fight for friendships that doesn't need you to take out your "Pound of Flesh".
Don't force conversations.
Learn and teach yourself to walk away from anyone or anything that doesn't speak to your personal growth .
Let go of people and situations you can't control,
Think less of what other people think of you.

When I realised how happy I could be when my circle is smaller , I grew more happier and it reduced dramas and tears.

Before you let someone's actions and inactions get to you; Ask yourself these personal questions;

How do they contribute in your day to day life's routine? Emotionally, physically and mentally? Rate their importance on a scale of 1-10%; if they don't occupy 2% of your positive growth, ask yourself, is this worth you stressing over for ? Personally, I believe everyone in my life has a positive role they play out, it's either you contribute to my mental health, physical,spiritual or emotional health. I always try my best to stay away from people that spreads negative vibes.

How can you water a seed that won't bear you good fruits or give you shade?

Life is too short , know when you have exhausted your part in people's stories and act accordingly, to avoid pathetic questions like; why are you treating me this way? Why am I going through so much pain? .. most persons don't care you exist or have an ounce of sympathy in them . Put a stop to the stress , you put yourself through and start channeling your emotions towards positive people and situations with lots of peace of mind.

I hope you choose you, and make your happiness, your priority.

©Chimlee