"To my Kind" " letter of love,caution and strength ".

               

    I had multi choices of being a "Runs girl", " a wayward"  living wild life and being the flashy girl with lots of flashy pads, the few friends I made then, tried to hook me up with married men, I almost embraced that life, thinking about how easily I could board a flight to any country I wanted, buy the things i needed, but one thing kept me consistent in my decisions and that is " what if I sleep with this man and I don't live to tell the tale? What if I visit this person I met on social media and meet my end? Is it really worth risking my life for? 

      Am not perfect, I don't have a mansion to my name, but I sleep at night with lots of "peace of mind", I knew what I wanted and I knew chasing after men with the money, can only get me the expensive life I dreamt of, but in exchange for what? My destiny? My discipline? My self respect? My peace of mind?  I am sincerely proud of the life am living, am not perfect but I am constantly thinking through my actions before carrying them out, especially with the opposite sex, to be on the safer side of the "hurricane that might hit anytime". Life is too sweet and short to be killed over petty things that shouldn't matter.

      I could remember being in a scenario where I found myself in the same room with a married man and a politician( one out of my numerous testimonies), God! I didn't know he's married, because he never looked it in his pictures, I was scared, because I wouldn't want to break the principles I have laid out for myself, I honestly told him, that I had no idea he's married, he smiled and said "You never asked", he was right! I was more concerned about money and being given huge money like my friends explained that I didn't think it over before meeting up with him, God willing, my menstruation popped out of nowhere, luck was on my side, God was on my side! He left the room angrily, saying if I knew I was in my period, I shouldn't have come to meet him, that was how God saved me from the situation, I learnt a huge lesson nevertheless, being the "female Oliver Twist comes with a lot of sacrifices" and am not ready to trade my life for it. I stopped asking my female friends for a solution to live the way they do, I concentrated on my own path to destiny. 

I am a woman and we rise by supporting one another.

    From my teary blinds, heavy pen and hurting papers, I write this to you "My Kind" (my beautiful woman filled with life)

 I know there's a lot of pressure mounted on you by the society and peers, the pressure to live an extravagant lifestyle, to travel round the world, but don't let this material things drive you to an early grave,

     When you were asked "not to put all your eggs in one basket, you were indirectly being asked to be wary of who you trust and move with, its simply a cautious notification, it is not a ticket to being the front chair holder of every car"

All man is trying to survive in a good and bad way, most of the survival kit demands a sacrifice, don't let greediness make you the sacrificial lamb.

   Your dream lover or man, mustn't come in an adorned Lamborghini, he might come in a tricycle, the dream is to live a "contented life".

  Don't be the mouth that would vomit money for our generation Wannabe Pastors, Politicians,Married men and yahoo boys,

    Don't let social media drive you crazy, with meeting someone online and getting married to them, some girls ain't that lucky, what worked for Lillian might not work for you, destiny differs,

   Don't let anyone talk you into being a " Runs girl" or a "Wannabe" and excusing it on situations.

   I am not perfect my fellow woman, but I don't pray to be someone's sacrificial lamb, there's more to life than just wearing waist beads and twerking for a married man, just to be sprayed money at, there's more to life than sleeping with and hanging out with every man you see with a car, have you ever thought of leaving the house and meeting an accident on your way? What will you tell God? What account can you give after here? Girls are dying, young beautiful girls, being victims of ritual killings by our Wannabe pastors, Politicians and yahoo boys,

   Isn't it time for us to adjust and be more careful on how we approach life? You might have a lucky charm that protects you from all danger, but what if it fails you at some point? Ella might get married despite being a weirdo, but there has been many cases of missing girls and brutally killed recorded as well, you might not be as lucky as your friend, money and flashy pads might buy you fame and happiness, but definitely not peace of mind.

     It is hard enough to survive, why make it harder by risking your life every minute? Do you think death is meant for a specific person? Do you think you are too young to die? Have you been to the mortuary to see the deceased ages, ranging from 8years, even a 6year old.

Wouldn't it be nice to die when its time for you to? And not dying because of your carelessness?

   I am writing this to all women with a heavy heart and tears dripping down my face, wishing you would all start being more careful in all your affairs, girls are dying , being victims of avoidable circumstances that they couldn't just avoid due to greed,

   It hurts to see most men making fun of our greed for money and lack of self discipline. It hurts to see "a rest in peace" for my kind due to carelessness. 

    Can we be more cautious? More careful? Can't we just take situations and life slowly? Can't we just calm down? And live the good life? Can't we just be kinder to ourselves? And stop chasing flashy life, gained out of a bigger sacrifice and giving out all that makes you a woman?.

     Take care of yourself, don't loose guard, don't compare and stay safe always. With warmest regards and much love from me to you, wishing you the safest hugs life could sincerely give.

            Yours and Yours only,

                    -HerMixedMuse