Morality is not Christianity, But Morality is found in Christianity.

 "Sex" has made and marred lives, the term "Sex" is highly underrated and we live in an era where it is seen as a culture, so, many persons gets entangled to an extreme that they lose control over canal desires and discipline, that's why a man can comfortably have sex with 12 girls without a feeling of satisfaction, same applies to a woman.

  In an interview with a Spiritual director and founder of "The Voice of one" Bro. Anaelechi Chimbuchi, he explained how self control over sex can be applied and how to embrace the urge for sex.

Chimlee: What is sex Bro Chimbuchi?

 Bro chimbuchi: Firstly I will like to say sex is an Act created by God for mankind to help bond, Love and re-procreate but it's a tool legally(the legally here is spiritual legality) usable in marriage.

Why is sex only applicable in marriage?  Why should it be done only in marriage?

From the Bible in Gen 2:18-25 you see that the first man and woman on Earth were joined(married) by God before they had sex.....they didn't have sex before they were joined together...God even said 'for this reason a man will leave his father and mother be United to his wife, and they will become one flesh: what is the reason? *Marriage* and in marriage that is where the *Sex* is. 

Note: He said United with his wife not *his baby mama or his girlfriend or sugar mama*

The process of becoming one flesh is both spiritual and physical and part of the physical process of it is Sex. Sex helps the Couple bond better.

So why will u choose to be one flesh with twenty to thirty Ladies or Guys...Jesus said it wasn't so from the beginning...he(God) created them one man one woman.

Chimlee: Lack of control over sexual urge has led to so many insecurities and heartbreaks, so, how can the urge for it be controlled? 

Bro Chimbuchi: The control of Sexual urge is very much difficult to the flesh(body) more especially for those who were exposed to Sexual content from a very young age.

Being a Christian I will start like this because it is actually the best way to start.

1. Giving your life to Christ: please I didn't say going to church. Many have misunderstood both.

If a Lady or Man gives his or her life genuinely to God though there might still be a sign of the struggle (because when u start up an action and continue in it till it becomes a habit it's difficult to stop...that is a principle of life God respects...there are life principles that effect both believer and unbelievers because it was put in place by him for Creation which man is part of, principles like giving and receiving, it affects everyone, so also Habit) but the difference will be that they will hate what they do now and fight to stop it unlike someone who isn't a true Christian who just keeps doing (I won't rule out some people who are not christians but have good morals...but hope u know that *Morality is not Christianity but Morality is found IN Christianity*).

So being a True Christian goes a long way to help u fight or Control the Urge. 1 Peter 2:11-12 states Peter's advise to Christians.

2. Discipline: even Christians must discipline their body. God is not a Magician...NO. He is a God of Principles as I have earlier stated, don't assume all the physical Habit will just disappear when u give your life to Christ, many people have lived with that wrong teaching... remember when you gave your life to Christ what was given to you was a *New Heart&Spirit* (Ezekiel 36:26) which you *Your Soul* must partner with to defeat your flesh (when I say defeat your flesh I mean not obeying it's desires(wrong bodily desires) and wants).

Apostle Paul in 1 Cor 9:27 said 'he brings his body under subjection' ...New Living Translation (NLT) says I discipline my body....

You must learn to discipline yourself.

You must know the things that leads you to Sexual Sin and stay away from it...it is not easy but as a Christian who has the Holy Spirit to help him you must learn to say NO to those desires.

For example, you have a female friend and you notice the closeness is becoming much in another way....my dear don't fool urself, please don't spend lonely times with her.

Chimlee: How then do we embrace it?  

Bro Chimbuchi: Sex can only be embraced in marriage.

Chimlee: Thank you so much for your time Bro Chimbuchi, God bless you, for throwing more light on this "canal war"

Bro Chimbuchi: God bless you too.

 In my own opinion, learning to have a control over this urge can be hard, but we never can tell how much control we would exude, if we tried.

©Chimlee