"Opinion Poll"

 

 "Would you rather be friends or create enmity with your ex after breakup"?

      I spent most of my "alone time" pondering over this deep question and what seemed like an unresolved puzzle, time and again, I wanted to draw a conclusion based on my own intuition, I had to seek the opinion of the young vibrant minds' out there, I took a quick survey to get people's view on this "everyday war" and I must say their responses, wowed me!! 

Friends or enemies with your Ex?? What's your take?

   Here's their  beautiful responses;

  Udeme Samuel said:- "I will remain friends but keep my distance,Break up shouldn't make him become my enemy cuz that's the same person that once made me complete and happy".

  Iphee's Collection's opinion:- ''I wouldn't want to see someone on the streets tomorrow and be scared because of our past, I would rather be friends than be enemies with my ex".

Toxic Obsession pointed out: "Friends. I am actually with all mine, Its all about how matured u r sha. I feel like we meet people to learn somtin including exes. D truth at some points we all learnt somtin with dem. So overlook d painful experience, these people could be a key role or connexion to our life in future''.

Muyiwa, equally gave his own opinion:- " I would rather stay neutral than create enmity with my ex If she is in need of my help, I would gladly help. Two wrongs don't make a right "😊

Rufina added:- " I will rather be friends with him Bcos I have nothing to gain in creating enemity with him am rather punishing myself".

Chidimma Okoye's Opinion:- " If i love the ex very much then i would cut ties with him because it will affect my new relationship. But most time its better ex go their separate ways even though you didn't fight, But if their is no quarrel to cause enemity then i will keep communication but very less".

Diogo Pearl added:- "I wouldn't be friend and I won't be enemy because I don't want to  remember or be reminded of the past..what happens in past stays in the past".

OreOluwa pointed out : "If it ended on good terms we will still be friends after I have been able to bear the loss but if it ended on bad terms there won't be enmity and  I will also stay away".

Annoymous said :- Exes are funny at times. for the fact we shared some special beautiful and crazy moments together at a time. I could say even we are done,  either one of the both of might still have a feelings and that Could spike up something.So for me there's a limit to which I want to be friends. from a distance yes".

 Samson added his own opinion:- " I rather not be fwend with my ex any longer coz ex most times disrupt any present relationship one is.... U can't walk with the present and still hold hands with the past".

Anonymous said:- " To me friends,  if u keep it on enmity level is not going to be OK because he or she can drastically refuse u something that can change ur life.Been in enmity is not good,been at peace is d best".

Another Anonymous  added :- " Depends on how we broke up ....if it was mutual .....den we can still b friends ...no hard feelings but if he did hurt me,beat me on regular or other stuffs ....na enemity o".

Chidi said:- "Depends on the reason for breaking up but someone like me don't like having enemies".

Sylva had this to say:- "Depending on the situation or the cause of the breakup, personally I won’t create enmity with my ex. All offenses are forgivable".

Godwin NnabuPower said :- "I will not be friends rather an enemy to my ex because if I don't truly love her before the dichotomy then she can be my friend.. I can't watch her been held by another man.But if my love for her is for real and genuine I will not stand it seeing her every time nor keeping her as a friend because love goes with jealousy, So it's better I forget her and move on".

Somadina said: "She cant be my friend We broke up because of a very strong reason so My dear my ride or die is my friend thank you".

Anonymous said: "Neither, I’ll just be indifferent about your existence once we break up".

Mimie's candid opinion:" I’d rather be just there, Not friends not enemies, I won’t give my ex the opportunity to be in my life because either as friends or enemies,I’ll keep thinking about you so I’d forget him".

Paulo speaking from experience had this to say: "Well I will speak from experience. I have two exes, and I’m friends with them guess what both of them are married. What’s the need for the enmity, and negative vibe"?

My Friend Vianfy simply added:" It depends on how we broke up".

Samuel said: "I would prefer to befriend my ex instead of keeping enmity with her...it's not right/wisdom to keep enmity with anyone regardless of what they've done to you in the past".

Anonymous said: " I would rather be a friend with my "ex" than enemy,because we don't know where the boat of life can take us each to. we can both need each other's help later in life".

LimmaryFashion said: "mehn I dn plan it.. My opinion is.. ' as it turn up'.. I let life happen I don't force anything".

Dilobloss simply said: "Friends. Cuz na small world nah. He might b of help in future".

Lyndex considering future effects said: "Creating enmity with my ex, "No" not at all, cos he might be  a helper to me or my children tomorrow, likewise me. I will stay friend with him for the sake of generosity, value and peace".

Dave said: "I don't create enmity with my ex niether can I be a frd to them. I just chose to avoid them. Cause their part in my life has ended".

Anonymous said : "Breakup should be breakup, Enmity I don't support either".

      Cardi said: "Friends.On the other hand it depends on the ex and the reasons behide d breakup".

 Tony said: "Is better to have friends than enemy no matter the person that involves,I won't create enmity with my Ex but I would surely mind how we converse".

Blessing B: "Feelings don't die completely, I'd avoid him of it would resurrect old feelings".

   Victor gave his candid opinion saying: "This is a sensitive question".When a relationship breaks up, becoming friends with your ex offers a possibility for a come back. However, you this Is not always the case. Becoming friends with an ex you truly love poses a risk to any relationship you find yourself in... Again..it's not advisable to be enemies but you must not necessarily be friends..not close friends... E get why?Let me ask you? If your man is very good friends with his ex.. how will you take it"?

  Anonymous said: "My ex can't b my friend or my enemy..I will only b friendly with him,Respond to his greetings,Respond to his chats n questions dah r nt personal".

    I feel People will always have their own perception about why certain things shouldn't be the way it is or why it should. About being friends or creating enmity with an "ex" I think its wholly dependent on the situation that led to the breakup. You simply dont expect me to be friends with a guy, that i sacrificed everything for, only to give me lame excuses tomorrow leaving me shattered and heartbroken, my friendship vibe depends on the situation surrounding our "breakup" Some painful pasts doesn't demand awakening or being connected to. 

     Some past buttons are better off unclicked, it doesn't mean I am declaring war on him, it simply indicates I am inlove with my own peace of mind. 

     If we can "Forgive" the hurts and heal from the pains, but let the scars serve as a reminder on how cautious we ought to be, for our own emotional freedom. Don't be enemies with your "Ex" don't be friends without limits either, so, it won't affect your today and tomorrow. Guys try not to promise more than you can fulfill in a relationship to avoid resorting to being "enemies" after breakup because of the "painful escapades encountered".

                  ©Chimlee