"Don't build Me Castles In The Air"

Promises are "vows" they are "oaths ", a conviction to commit yourself till the end, So, the next time you promise to love someone forever and to have their backs or to marry them in the end, I hope you know you are indirectly taking an " oath" and there's always repercussions for anyone left unfulfilled".

   Unfilled Promise is the reason why people get hurt and fall out of love and bonds, loosing all vibe to love and trust again, when a relationship breaks up or an engagement is called off. Under the heat of the excitement of our emotions, we make promises too big and hard to keep, when the excitement fades out.

 Most men and women of our jet age are not even scared anymore, when promises are made, commitments and sacrifices sets in and your spouse holds out with the conviction of everything that has been promised, with the conviction of a "Forever'' or " happily ever after" which turns out to be a "Sadly ever after" for most persons.

Why do you stress over lighting a candle of love, hope and commitment in people's lives, just to  douche it in the end? Why do you undergo the stress of dragging people to the middle of the ocean just to leave them to drown in the ocean of heartbreaks and disappointment?

Don't make her a mother if you will get her pills to abort, buy a brain and use condoms, rather than looking for a life to devour with your "lies in promise facades"

Don't promise him/her a tomorrow when you are not certain of your today's decisions, 

Don't promise an eternity when you are not even convinced you would keep up,

That is why so many of us get married without having kids of our own, nor the happiness that we truly deserve or  marital crises here and there , or one never seems to be happy or make any progress in life, because somewhere somehow, someone has been hurt because of the promises you couldn't fulfill, you shattered someone's dignity, dreams and expectations, because you were being a coward "Not man or woman enough". Don't make  promises you can't keep, that Lady or man won't beat you up for being sincere, 

     "I  would much rather you say " I am uncertain about the future" but God willing we might end up together " or "I am hopeful we would be like this forever" ,  trust me you can only feel rejected but definitely not dejected, it is more preferable if you just told him/her what you really want out of a relationship, rather giving them a promising future and leaving them in the end.

  

      Don't delay the lady or the man you are with, if you don't love them long enough for a forever, let them know! Stop leading beautiful hearts into emotional depreciation and suicide!

Imagine a girl being trained in school by a man, after much expenses and promises exhausted, you would probably realise he's not your type. And you end up being stupid enough to forget the "vows" you made.

If you know you won't marry that girl you are with, "let them know"! Don't waste her beautiful years in the name of " we will get married soon " and you end up telling her stories, stop making empty promises you can't keep! Learn to say how it is or what it is you feel, no one will execute you for being sincere, rather than lying to someone just to deceive or use them! Stop using promises as a shield or garment to cloak your evil intentions, is it relationships ?  let them know their limits, so, they won't build an empire in their heads only for it to be demolished in the end, "I will marry" I promise its just us in the end" and the Mr or Miss will end up "ranting nonsense about not promising you anything" when relationships would have been much better than this.

I could recall a guy "telling me, he just wants us to be friends with benefit" I smiled and said "sorry, I can't, I mean it won't work". And that was it, I appreciate people that are sincere enough with their feelings and not cowards! If you have a relationship that you are currently leading the lady or man on, because of what you are currently gaining, maybe its time you shake it off!! Stop being selfish!  Stop making too many promises just to mar your happy life in the end.

I would much rather you start being sincere, you might seem a bad person for starters, but lives will be saved and they will be eternally grateful to you for being truthful in the end.

©Chimlee