"Happiness Is a Journey, Not a Cure"

"A subtle reminder on how much you should value yourself"

       I  was once depressed about not being married! Hell yeah, I was, But it gave me the chance to sink down to my darkest emotions and see the light from the bottom.. I grew out of it!! And that was when I saw things clearer, (this is deeply not all there is to my life!!) 

Don't wallow in "Self pity" and "self condemnation" No no!! I can't say your feelings are not real, am saying don't condemn yourself because of how unworthy you feel! Why do you feel that way? Is this all there is to life?,  I can't stop you from the "odd feelings" you might have about  not being married,but heres a therapeautic idea on how to wait beautifully without an atom of depresssion.

•  Be patient:  Its not just your time yet, but that doesn't mean you deserve less, be cheery,stay smart and charming.

• Exhume Confidence:: Appear smart and elegant not ugly and messy! Be wise, don't spoil the dish before its served!! Walk with so much charisma that it wows the crowd!!

Be happy for your friends Engagement or Marital life!! Avoid envy!! Stay far away from it, it thwarts happiness

• Avoid Comparison  This is common in our digital generation where we have so many "I wish I had a hubby like him" I wish I was married like her"  stop comparing my dear!  you don't know what most persons have to go through wearing their shoes!! Imagine trying to wish to be in the same spot as them? Quite painful!

• Avoid depression: Don't be too desperate not to recognize the fake, yes, 99% percent of ladies out there have fallen into the wrong hands out of desperation for marriage, don't appear too desperate in front of these men, that you find yourself in the "I am not ready for relationships, am more concerned about settling down" situations, to avoid getting the reply you are irking for and getting dumped in the end, and who's left with a broken heart? You!! Allow things to work out on it's own don't force it.

• Be wary of who you date: You heard right, date a man who has passed the stage of crazy sex cravings and competition among his friends, (very Paramount)  know when you are being decieved and when to back out, ladies have foresight, activate yours!! And its not compulsory to be part of a relationship before you can get married.

• Define your life: Yes! Most singleton haven't defined their lives yet, they are just "waiting to get married" my girlfriend scolds  me on daily basis " to define my life before getting married because she's married and she has seen what it takes, when you go into it empty handed" Get busy while you wait,don't rush that proposal , review it,understand it first!! Bad marital decision can guarantee you an eternity of Hell.

mingle and live your life to the fullest!! You owe that much to yourself!

Make a bucket list : write down the things you would want to achieve while you are still single, work towards them and tick off √√ anyone you achieve, it's more fun when you make yourself happy.

 Being single is fun too, stop saying its "hectic or boring" Happiness and contentment depends entirely on how you view life!! Haven't you seen a married but sad couples? Trust me you wouldn't want to walk in that shoe, so, gladly wear a broad smile because "I wish I didn't" is worse than "am glad I didn't"

 Being married is sweeter, if its with the right person!! But a single and well prepared life and decisions for a marital life, is better than a compromised marriage!! That's like walking in the darkest paths of life!! With no hope of a glimmer of light!!

 Don't idolize or idealize any couple or have those crazy wishes: 'I wish to have a hubby like him" I wish I have a Happy marital like Jane" stop wishing!! Just wish to have your own Unique spouse!! Don't envy marriages because " life is not a bed of roses" all that glitters ain't gold " don't let your anxiety and depression chase you into the arena of "pity" and the circle of "let me manage him" there's no management in marriage! Be proudly single and take your God given time!! But am not saying you should go about being rude!

• Possess the right attitude!! 

Being married is a blessing, but Staying married is a tough but sweet journey, can you handle it? Ponder over this, are you ready to marry and stay married? Don't be in the group that wears a jealous but a smiling congratulations facade, in a nutshell don't be envious of any relationships! You don't know what's going on behind closed doors!!

Dear beautiful Single Lady:

 Amidst these therapeutic steps "Know God" just know him, I have my reasons!! A friend once said she's had things easy because she talks to God like he's her father "mild and calm" and she makes deals with him, Make deals with him!

 Do you want to live a sweet single life until Mr imperfect but Perfect comes??? Be contented, find a job, be happy, stay away from bad vibes, pray consistently, be genuinely happy for others marital lives!! Stop listening to everyone's opinion on "when you should get married" take your time single lady and make your choice stand out!!.. 

Be emotionally, spiritually, mentally and physically ready!!

Get married when you are ready, take your time but not too  long a  time!

Am not saying all your worrisome thoughts will just go away, but I just hope,

 this is enough to keep you going and strong!!.

©Hermixedmuse