"From Numb to New"

Mark Manson's Disappointment Panda would say "Don’t hope for a life without problems “There’s no such thing. Instead, hope for a life full of good problems.”

       Being depressed and hunting yourself over things you, don't have any control over, is like depriving yourself off a life itself even while you are still alive,there's no easy way to success or achieving what we want,all we need to do is to be capable enough to deal with life's tantrums when we are faced with it, don't think for a moment because a certain man is rich they dont have problems, that's certainly being delusional and shutting ourselves out from what the truth is, if human beings have no existing problems, we won't see a rich man still investing to make more money, life would have been perfect and we would have had billions of people with annoying personality gaits! 

     Before you feel depressed, do a self evaluation,you have a job that earns you a salary monthly, yet you wallow in self pity and  condemn yourself constantly because of that job you have been dreaming and craving for that you haven't gotten yet, you go back home and crawl back into your shell like a kid that was deprived of chocolates, you feel rejected,pathetic and wear a gloomy smile because you are probably not where you dream to be, have you done a self evaluation on people who aren't even privileged to have the kind of job, you have now? Or the kind of blessings you have now that you are being too blind to see? You are feeling depressed, because you have the comfort of your bed to sleep on and ponder over the things you haven't achieved yet, have you thought about someone somewhere sleeping in the streets with just one "wish"  a roof over their heads!

   Before you complain about jobs, evaluate the unemployed youths around you, so, before you feel depressed, do a proper self evaluation.

     There is no need locking yourself from the world, because you feel that lady next to you is cuter, or richer or drives a car, or maybe she owns a house. I saw a post made by someone the other day and tagged it " A lady like you bought a car and a house, and you are there waiting for a man to spend on you'' I was amazed at the post he made, and i felt deeply sorry at how "Myopic" most persons can be, mentality is obviously overrated, that it got me pondering deeply on the caption and I just reached to a conclusion that this is the kind of words that thwarts people's vibes, celebrating  someone's success is good, its really a good deed, but rubbing it on most persons faces and making it look like every person out there is not putting in their best efforts is the dumbest scene to behold.

       Life has a process, and our problem isn't entirely solved and it will never go away, so, if you can pay your bills, stay healthy, have clothes to wear even when you don't have enough and eat without having to beg for it, then trust me! You don't know how opportuned you are.

    Pretend for once that the social media doesn't exist because people make their personal life so public that 99% of human  beings are living their lives on the make believe pictures, and facades that is going on, after going through Facebook, Instagram , twitter and WhatsApp for a while, you drop your phone and start asking yourself depressing questions; why me? Why you? It's you because you have chosen to pay attention to what you shouldnt pay attention to, most of those stories, ain't true, most celebrities you imitate their lifestyles are not having it easy, everyone has a problem they are dealing with, but the question is how do you handle it? How do you handle your insecurities? Just how?.

     By simply understanding that life is a process, with different stages of growth, and every process comes with new experiences to push you to the next level or phase.

     The things that we enter the state of "depression" for are the things that doesnt really matter, because rather than building yourself, you are more worried on  how to dress better than Jane,because she posted new pictures wearing new clothes and your eyes is almost bulging out of its sockets, where you are trying to zoom in the picture and get in every details about Jane's outfit!! You are doing yourself trust me!!

     You know I could recall back then in school, because being the first child of my parents I knew that I wasn't the only one they catered for, so, when I gained admission into the Polytechnic after years of fruitless efforts to gain admission into a university, during my first year, I was more concerned about the knowledge I came to obtain, knowing where am coming from, could go a whole month without making new hair, at a point the big girls in my department mocked me for being financially unstable and mocked my wearing same clothes I wore in first semester , in second semester,  I deeply felt bad, but I refused to be depressed or be depraved off my rights to walk flawlessly to class and recieve lectures, their rants and mockery didn't get to me and it didn't stop me from myself and it didn't change because I knew what I wanted and needed at that point in my life. So, rather than worrying about how to improve in the job environment you have found yourself in or your school environment, you are more concerned about that your friend that bought a car, that girl that bought a Caribbean hair, the one that got a job in an oil company, and that's how you slowly migrate and upload your God given heart  into a depressive state, rather than seeing life in every little thing you do and in every moment that passes by, you would rather spend most of it dealing in self pity and denial, constantly asking God, why? Why what? You asking him why what exactly? Have you made any efforts to live for yourself? Have you tried to find true happinesses by solving your problems without having to  blame it on anyone? Or compare it to anyone else's  trying to weigh it on a scale to see if your own is bigger or smaller.

     God didn't put you on earth for you to act all depressed ,you are here to live a life, not to take your life, life is just too sweet and fun, if only you would stop worrying and focus more on self evaluating yourself and thinking of a better way to be able to solve your personal problems first, limit your level of interest for the expensive lifestyles on social media and the people around you.

    Continue to find joy in that menial jobs you do, continue to be proud of your achievements, continue to strive to pass every phase life presents to you, do more of self evaluation and know your shortcomings and work towards elevating yourself, don't always blame God, and don't always feel certain things are happening to you because you don't deserve better, no! Everyone is passing a certain phase, but they won't tell you about it, you can only find out if you asked, don't douch your emotions because someone said you should be strong, cry when  you feel like it, but smile through it, let out your pains but laugh through it, don't remain in the darkest path of your life just because you feel you don't deserve to see the light, everyone deserves the light that illuminates, emanates and breaks all the  walls of darkness you have built around you. You deserve sunshine, self evaluate yourself constantly, think of new ways to solve your problems, new ways to live your life to the fullest, new things to do to make you happy, and if you ever want something, just know that there's a process, follow the process and step into the light...

    Before you feel depressed evaluate yourself, look around you and realize just how much importance and value you have to impact in the people around you, behind the screen or in the audience, make your light radiate anywhere you are and everywhere you go.  Take on the backdoor escape from depression and set yourself free.

                 ©Hermixedmuse