Be Positive With Children, Birth a Beautiful Generation.

 

When was the last time you said something nice to a child or reprimand his mistakes without being negative in the process? When was the last time you applauded his efforts and cheered for him?

   While impacting positive attitude in your life, remember to let it spread among the kids you are surrounded with, despite your relationship with him/her, be mindful of the "Negative comments" you pass on to a child, be mindful of the "Negative Actions" you indulge yourself in, in their presence, "when a husband beats up his wife in front of his kids"  they would end up nurturing this mentality of raising their hands on a Woman"  your negative attitudes always turn out to affect their growth, this is more reason why you should work on staying positive in your attitude.

 "Kids are the picture representation of the family they are coming from" . be cautious of how much "Sick guts" you exude in the presence of a child, be mindful of your  words and actions, so, you won't have to spread it like a virus unto that child next to you. 

“Children are likely to live up to what you believe of them.”

  — Lady Bird Johnson, Former First Lady of the United States

  “Each day of our lives we make deposits in the memory banks of our children.”

  — Charles R. Swindoll, Evangelical Christian pastor

  

  The power of words is that a life can be launched with as little as a single phrase, an uplifting word or an act of kindness. Think of the power we wield and the impact we can make if we become more intentional about encouraging our children. Our words are often the very things that help create future dreams. And sometimes those dreams are to be just like us... _compassion International

  A lot happens when you encourage a child, despite their short comings, we all made mistakes while growing up, so, understand they are bound to make mistakes too, but you choose how to correct them, without defaulting their "Sense of humour" and "Self Esteem".

  

  What happens when you say "Positive things to a child"?.

  1. You unleash their happiness,

  2. You unleash their many abilities/capabilities,

 3. You create a beautiful soul, A proud and vibrant adult,

  4. You unlock their superman instincts.

  Children are like systems, they store up entirely what you input in them. What data have you been imputing on a child? 

  There's a way to scold a child and many punishments you can give a child without defecting the " negative bomb"

  Tell a child ; ''He's the most intelligent kid in the class" and you see him putting in extra effort and proving his intelligence, because he's happy, you acknowledged his intelligence, he would always want to stand out, but tell him he's a dullard, he lives most of his childhood days acting like one.

  Children are so innocent that they believe whatever any adult tells them about themselves, is who they truly are, and they grow up with such mentality with lots of inferiority complex and lack of confidence.

  I could recall a conversation I overheard between a young girl and her playmates, she kept on telling them that her father scolded and told her she won't be up to no good, I beckoned on her to come , I tried my best  to talk her out of it, but she said "Auntie Chi, "My father said, I won't be up to any good". I was shocked at how such words could discourage a young vibrant girl and limit her into thinking she's leading a " Useless life" because of what her father said, probably he never meant it, but said it out of anger, now the "Effect of the words on the young girl has equally proven to be catastrophic". She doesn't want to hear anything positive about herself, she already accepted she's useless and she was busy transmitting the "Negative energy to other kids".

  Most of us would chose mocking a child's inability to perform well in the class or in any indoor/outdoor activities, rather than encouraging the child to be better, most persons would choose to curse a child when he makes a mistake rather than calling him to order and letting them know what they did wrong.

  What am I trying to say? You can punish children without making them feel less of themselves.

  Words you can't use for kids;

  1. Coward

  2. Fool

  3. Useless

  4. Idiot

  5. A failure

  6. A dullard 

According to Ellen Perkins; "Without doubt, the number one most psychologically damaging thing you can say to a child is 'I don't love you' or 'you were a mistake".

  If you are among the ignorant few that calls a child a failure or any of these words listed above. It simply means you are one and that's why you could easily recognize someone that has the same qualities as you. 

  Try saying positive words like; 

  1. Your gown is beautiful, it looks nice on you

  2. You did well but I would love you to do better next time.

  3. I am proud of you, you did me proud with that smart attitude!

  4. You are my favorite son/daughter 

   Reprimanding a child is a necessity, but don't spread your negative energy alongside it, children are the leaders and future of tomorrow, don't be caught breeding a generation of "Inferiority complex" filled with many "I can'ts" Am not good enough" I don't fit in". Build and mould that child next to you, by transmitting lots of positivity to them, correct a child positively and see that child grow up to be "A vibrant youth filled with lots of guts to adapt anywhere". 

                     ©Chimlee